When the System fails our children

OK...I need to vent. So pleaaaasssssse excuse me for trying to knock of this off my shoulders. But I'm sorry, but sometimes I think people just does NOT use any kind of common sense at all. I'm serious. Really!! God gave us the common sense as a gift to use and I think people just forget it is there to use. Know what I mean?

So I had plans to go visit the child support office this week to see where the case has gone. It has been two months since we submitted the paper work and hopefully by now something was happening but I had not heard. Ok?! Well then I get this call from my caseworker at CSE and she told me she just got a call from the Maryland CSE (interstate case) and they wanted us to do all the paper work again as they need updates every six months. Well, it has NOT even been 2 months, much less six months. So I quickly became angry and was, of course, yelling at the wrong person about this.

We just sent them all this stuff in August and the medical documentations in June (that is about 4 months) So where the hell are they getting the updates every six months???? How stupid is this girl. So I'm thinking, this idiot must have lost the paper work and she was using that six month theory as her damn excuse. How stupid. Hello, we don't have stupid written on our foreheads!!!

So tomarrow we have to go in and show proof of our income again and the doctors have written a letter again of Tim's medical condition.

I did write a letter to the Maryland-Montgomery County Child support office director and I did blast him out. I told him that if we don't see a child support payment in January that I will hire an attorney and file a law suit against them as I'm tired of after 15 + years of asking for a modification from the original order and all they did was sit on this. Sit on this. NOthing done. For 15+ years, Fl CSE and I have constantly submitted paper work to them and they did NOTHING! NOTHING!! I'm so freaking tired of this bull shit.

This child deserves better than that and I'm so tired of them "defending" the father and not being there for the child- and a child with a disability.

I don't understand our system. How can they be so cruel, cold and caless??? How can they not be there for these children. How can they defend this man who does nothing but make excuses and even lies to get out of his responsiblity.

Victor's excuse now is that because Tim is no longer a child, he should not have to pay child support. What Victor does not get, his son is DISABLE and has to have that support for the rest of his life especially now that he has 24/7 nursing care and on a ventilator. Come on man, you work at a children's hospital and you work with sick kids all the time, you should know about this type of stuff and not be stupid or ignorant about it.

This man has known that Tim has DMD and I don't think he has done 1 thing to help Tim out. NO fundraising. No help with medical supplies. Nothing. and he stopped paying child support before his 18th birthday not at his 18th birthday. And then he has the f**king nerve to lie to the Maryland CSE and when they called me on it I told them he lied to them and gave them proof of his lie so that when they asked him about it, he admitted he lied to them.

So, of course, I sent them a letter (like I said before) and advise them NOT to take his word on anything cuz he is a compulsive liar and they should not expect him to volunteer any info and that if they want anything from him they would need to subponed it. I know. I have caught this man lying and then cuz he was caught lying, he lied again to cover that lie and he would keep doing this.

I don't know how this man expects to make it to heaven at the rate he is going. He even lied to his father and told his father he pays child support every month and that they take it out of his pay check. That is a f**king lie. He has NOT paid child support for over 3 years now and it does NOT come out of his pay check. And the worse part is that his parents are made of fools due to his lies!

If they only knew...if they only knew how low ass their son really is. I'm also so tired of his mother making excuses for him. Don't make excuses for your son. He does that plenty on his own!! But don't tell Tim he is to busy to spend time with him. Excuse me? he sure has time taking vacations to go where ever he wants to go...why not take it to visit with Tim????

Victor is a sorry ass father and does NOT deserve to be a father and I really feel sorry for his 2 new kids. Wait till they find out how much of an ass he really is. Wait till they find out that he prevented them to know their older brother. Just wait....it will come back to bite him in the ass.

If you are Victor's relative reading this....the truth is here. Your brother is a compulsive liar. DO NOT BELEIVE ANYTHING HE SAYS. He is making up stories to make him look good and honestly he is the worse father! Anyone that believes anything that Victor says is a fool. He DOES NOT PAY CHILD SUPPORT and has not for now almost 4 years. He has NOT helped with medical. He has not helped with Tim's school loan. He has not helped with Tim's Birthday or graduation or college tuition. He has NOT done anything for this child but make excuses.

Now he has helped with a xmas gift...and has helped with one other gift after Tim begged (asked) him for him. And recently he did help with a few medical stuff but refuses to help with the medical bill. He doesnt care about Tim's credit cuz he thinks that Tim will die so who cares. Hello. Tim may outlive all of us and he may marry and have kids. He may buy a house and his credit does count. Victor may not care about his own credit but don't ruin Tim's due to your stupid theory. Yes!!! This is true. I lie not. And if you ask him...listen to him. Is it a lie he is telling you or a poor excuse? There will be reason to his stupid theories.

Ok...for now, I'm gonna shut up. Now I need to go in my room and just cry it off. I'm sick of this bull shit. This boy does NOT deserve this! But as his mother I have to do whatever I can to advocate on his behalf because he dumb father won't take the time to do it.

Later!